Random Thoughts

Today I was told by one of my friends that she is actually not that bad as I think.

this is not the type of statement that i have heard often in my life. i am a polite person, and there have been times when i have gone out of my way to make people comfortable around me. also, i generally don't cast aspersions or make judgements on other people's character. when one is responsible for one's own actions, any other person has no moral obligation and/or right to give his/her comments.

i may have made some remarks to her or told sth to other people, but they all were just for fun. and i am sure other people also took my words just as ordinary banter. but what has struck me most is the seriousness with which she has taken my comments. does her personality depend on the way i think? will she cease to be an innocent girl and turn into a devil-woman if somebody thought so ?

I don't blame her. probably the humans are made as such. there is an old saying in sanskrit that in money and power, a man always compares himself with others. even i have been a victim of this self-destructing ego. but the question is, is it all really necessary? get a goal in life, and give all you have to achieve that. in that process, if you find someone who likes you and cares for you, you are lucky. others who meet you for some fleeting moments and try to cast you in your own mould, just don't listen to them. they are not worthy of your attention. this is the character that Howard Roark has in Ayn Rand's famous fiction "The Fountainhead". i know it is difficult. i alone know how many times i have tried to be like him and have failed miserably. i am getting ridiculed by my own opinions (because i am the culprit of making comments at my friend), but this is the truth. it takes guts of steel to ignore the ridicule of others and be yourself. but just because cooking is difficult one doesn't stop eating, isn't it ? in this world, only those succeed who live life for themselves, and enjoy doing so. not those who try to change themselves according to every other person they meet.

and just think how much the world would get simpler if people just stopped trying to change others and accepted them as they are. the wife will think," so what if my husband does't find me attractive any more? my job is to make him happy, and i will be happy doing just that". husband will think," so what is my wife has got little plump in past few years? she still cares for me, and i will love her for that". half of the lawyers in the world will have to change their profession. or take a case of a teenager. many parents spend sleepless nights because they think their children find them outdated and don't care for them any more. imagine a world where the son will think ,"so what if my father doesn't understand my situation? it is my responsibility to give him respect, and i will do just that." the father will think," so what if my son is inexperienced and is getting a little brash? i will still give him my advice, whether he listens to it or not."

let's hope that one day the world actually gets so simple, and lovable.